Yearly Archives: 2019

Keeping the reservation

Keeping the reservation

You ever see the Seinfeld episode about the car rental?

He shows up having already called in a reservation.

There’s no car for him.

The lady behind the counter says, “We have your reservation but we ran out of cars.”

Jerry says something to the effect of, “You know how to TAKE the reservation but you don’t know how to HOLD the reservation… and that’s really the most important part.”

Well that’s a lot like fitness and nutrition. People seem to KNOW how to do a lot of these things but they just never DO the things required to increase strength, endurance and flexibility.

They don’t DO the simple actions to get in fantastic shape.

Maybe the trip to the gym or the cost that gets in the way…

If that’s the case, check out my Commando Cardio bodyweight bodybuilding routine.

It can be done at home and costs less than one of my personal training sessions.

It’s right here:

Be gritty,

Why I Don’t Do The Gym

So you want to be “the man” (or woman)eh?

Wanna be numero uno?

The big dawg?

Then let me tell you about this jail yard cat…

It’s a story from a father in prison to his son. It was actually a series of letters of fatherly wisdom and about how the world works.

In this letter the father spoke about a mangy jail yard cat that all the other prisoners hated.

The father talked about how every day the cat would stalk the yard looking for mice. When it found one it would play with it.

It would bat it around. Pin it. Let it go. Nip it, then smack it around some more… and do this for as long as toying with the mouse pleased him.

This is the dark side of power.

You either have power in a situation or you don’t.

One of the easiest ways to lose power is to lose your physical ability.

And guess what?

You need to do training that doesn’t drain you, that challenges you, that makes you stronger, more flexible, muscular and leaner… without injury.

You need to be able to turn on POWER when the cat comes for you.

How do you do that?

Well, when I trained bodybuilding style at the gym… I had injuries all the time.

What’s the point of that?

Going to the gym to gain strength, flexibility and power only to end up hurt and incapacitated?

Not to mention the time wasted travelling there… and the cost… and the annoying people.


Those are some of the reasons I don’t do the gym any more.

To see what I do instead to build, strengthen, apply, practice, and get results from my ability to own my power, check the Commando Cardio program.

It’s only expensive if you look at it as a cost and not an investment.

If you’re the former, that’s your first road block.

(Thinking of skills that can make you powerful as costs and not investments.)

If you’re the latter, then here’s the link:

How To Gain Muscle And Build Muscular Strength

If you need to know how to gain muscle and build muscular strength then you are in the right place. This blog series will take you there. It contains the top simple secrets I’ve taught clients trying to gain muscle and build muscular strength over the last 20 years. It also contains a master mind meeting with another muscle building expert where we put our heads together to give you the real insider tips and tricks on filling out those shirt sleeves and adding slabs of muscle to your body.

Of course nothing builds muscle quicker than getting to the gym and lifting those weights, but you’ll need some important information first. I want to reveal the real methods of building muscle that work, so you don’t waste any time, get ripped off or get steered wrong by bad advice.

Now before we get started, this is basic stuff. I am going to hit the hard, solid facts of how to gain muscular weight and get stronger… and it’s going to come down to lifting heavy, resting well, and eating enough good food.

REALITY CHECK, if you are skinny, can’t gain weight, and can’t move these numbers compared to your bodyweight – then we need to make you stronger too. Continue reading

Phoenix 1.4 Resolution – I Want To Handstand

handstand on beachI was knee deep in a rant that Sam, in true “coach like” fashion, seemed determined to finish. Although patient, I was beginning to wonder when he’d get back to training because I failed to see where he was going with all this.

But he kept going… “In the simple and uncluttered minds of children we can see truth and purpose. They know what they want and don’t let calculations of the odds sway their determination. Their mind is undivided and their eyes see only possibility.

When we look in their faces we are unsettled by their single mindedness. A child will stamp its feet and stand its ground. As an adult, you try and figure out how to appease the situation. The child doesn’t care. But adults think too much. Trapped in a jail of their own minds and afraid of what they feel and think. – or something like that. I can loan you a copy of Emerson’s self-reliance if you’d like. It’s eloquently put.”

I understood what he meant. “Being selfish is hard. It’s awkward to act on instinct without bowing or considering others in order to get what I need. But I guess I act nice and do things I don’t want to because I need to be in someone’s good books and keep my job.”

“Think of it this way,” said Sam, “Are you being unselfish when you act that way or simply deceitful, lying and conniving?”

That shook me by the shoulders. I often thought of myself as a straightforward, honest and kind person. Not someone who played games, but the truth of the matter was, I lied all day long.

“That’s what I thought,” said Sam driving the point home. “You’d be surprised how much bull crap you put up with and spit out, simply because you’re not self-reliant and feel powerless.” Continue reading

Phoenix 1.3 The Realization

“You ever wake up at night panicked about the fact that you will cease to exist some day?” Sam asked knowing the answer but waiting anyway.

“You do too?”

Even the question made my stomach knot up.

“Of course,” Sam said. “Once you’re past a certain age a ship has sailed. It’s the awareness of death. It changes how you live for the moment. You either panic and try to get the right things done as soon as possible taking short cuts in a manic race – or you relax and just do you. Life is only a string of moments and creativity is maximized by being in each one – without filter. Knowing that death comes for us all, what is there to fear or lose by being our true selves? Even if going where the fish are gets you lots of fish…”

Sam started laughing. Then he snorted.

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Phoenix 1.2 Crisis

Sam continued talking while I gained ground to close the gap between us.

“Lies divide you and shatter your integrity. Especially the lies you try to sneak by your soul about yourself. They leave you collecting pieces of your best self and cradling them in doubt and fear. A fully integrated person is one who knows the shadow and light inside and doesn’t scold or applaud either. What you act on is choice. A lot of choices you make are based on fear. Mostly fear of repercussions. Losing your job. Going to jail. Getting a ticket. Public outrage. Simple embarrassment. The biggest mistake is seeking approval. That, and wanting others to speak well of you.”

Sam turned right down a path without warning. I jogged a couple steps to catch up just as Sam sat down on a log. Continue reading

Phoenix 1.1 Be yourself everyone else is already taken

be yourself everyone else is already taken army photo

“Be yourself everyone else is already taken,” was spray painted on the concrete wall of the overpass. I drove by it every day on my way to the job site. It was about here on the drive that the engine started to get warm. The floor heater of the Chevy Blazer kicked up the smell of effort from a pair of steel-toed boots well past their prime. Those boots were both pride and shackles.

The boots were a source of pride because I finally stuck with something and saw the electrician training all the way though. I did the hours and was qualified. But those boots were also shackles because they meant I did what someone told me to, when they wanted me to, for however much money they wanted to pay me.

I pulled into the parking lot for the monthly safety meeting. In forty five minutes I would be back on my way to the job site to wire up an electrical panel.

That’s what I thought. Forty-five minutes later I was jobless.

After four years of an electrician apprenticeship I was laid off yet again. The work came and went as jobsites popped up and then became finished. Finish at a jobsite and you worked your way out of a job. It was a real disappointment to say the least. After all, I gave up doing what I really liked doing to be responsible and get a stable income.

When I was a personal trainer I had all the time in the world to workout. Matter of fact, I got paid to do it. I ran with clients and sometimes even worked out set for set with them if they asked me to.

Since then, I’d gotten out of shape, developed new aches and pains and was generally pretty disappointed with the way life was going.

Doing ten hour shifts plus travel time didn’t leave much time for anything except comfort food and some TV at the end of the day.

On my way home, I passed the writing on the overpass again. The walls of life felt like they were closing in. I was getting older, my body was rebelling and I hated losing my job every few months.

The fact of the matter was I was trapped. Trapped by uncontrollable income, a body that was rebelling and debt that got bigger each month.
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How To Become A Better Writer And Why You Should

This is the next part on writing. So it’s a work in progress. While it’s about how to become a better writer, it’s also a timeline flow of how I started to sort some shit out.

First things first. If you don’t have mutiple books, then your marketing dollars are unlikely to turn a profit for you. You won’t be able to ever break even on what you pay for advertising and what you get paid back in book sales.

So what does that mean?

It means you need to have several books so that when you market the first and lose money, they may buy the rest in your series.This is where you make money.

So in the hierarchy of things, I realized I didn’t have enough product to make a profit. I needed to write faster, more predictably and with better quality.

No small feat I know.

I started studying books and the first solid piece I found to stop waffling on my books and wasting so much time with abstract bits of writing that fit together was this:


In order to start efficiently rocking on a new story that’s going to sell you must know these things
Situation of distress (the reason this story is happening)
Protagonist who moves us through the story.
Objective that is the solution to the shitty situation
Opposition that directly impedes an easy solution
The climax where the situation is sorted out or everyone burns in a fiery crash.

That’s it for now. I’ve got things to write and sorting those above elements out isn’t as easy as it seems. Check your story. You got what you need?

Fearlessness And Courage – Fear Makes The Wolf Bigger Than He Is

What is courage and fearlessnessWhat is courage? Some say it’s the spirit or mindset that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc., with fearlessness. I say it’s the ability to act DESPITE fear.

And what does this have to do with helping you?

To explain, the single most common regret of the dying was wishing they had the courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life that others expected of them? Because when people realize that their life is almost over, they look back on it with clarity.

In your conquest of happiness, courage is key.

When you are about to die, there is a clarity that only exists in that precious moment. Everything pales in significance, and only that which truly matters is able to remain in the mind. In other words, most people die knowing that they didn’t go for it.

This is your life. When you die, it’s a journey you will make on your own. Only you will have to deal with the consequences, so make your own decisions. Those decisions will require courage.
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