If you’ve watched a movie called “The Secret,” and you’re still not a millionaire, you have to ask yourself, “Does the Law of Attraction work?”
I mean you’ve probably thought really hard about getting the date or the money or the job but yet, where is it?
Were you lied to about the Law Of Attraction?
In my opinion, the answer is yes.
Although it’s true that you start to become what you think about most of the time, there’s a big piece of the puzzle missing here.
― Earl Nightingale
Don’t Believe In Fairy Tales But Believe In Integrity
Nothing magic happens in the real world when it comes to the law of attraction. What really happens is you bring your strengths and desires into alignment with what the buying market needs and you become a success.
Because you are playing to your strengths, you enjoy the process and spend more time and effort working on the things that need to be done to bring success your way.
If you’re frustrated and angry with where you are now, that’s o.k. This is your inner guidance telling you what you don’t want. Thank it and use it. Use it to change your vibration to think about the things that you now know you do want. Do you hate not having money to pay for bills? That is o.k. Now you want to change it over to thinking about having a surplus of money so your bills are a joy to pay. The difference is slight. The effects on your attitude are not.
Now, what do you think when you hear all this foofy stuff like, soul, universe and law of attraction? It sounds pretty bizarre, doesn’t it? Does this law of attraction thing almost seems like a cult to you? Well, yes, just like everything else out there, there are people that mean well and there are people that will use anything new to make massive amounts of money. There are also people that will always pay money to jump on a bandwagon. Especially if it’s offering a quick fix.
A Quick Recap
What is being said in the readers digest version is; get rid of your limiting beliefs and tune into the circumstance that are coming to your awareness because your brain is concentrating on them. Ever want to buy a certain model or color of car? Then you notice it everywhere. Same thing. When you keep something at the forefront of your mind, you will notice more things that have to do with it.
When anything like happiness is set as an intention, you will notice more ways of making yourself happy. The only thing you physically have to do is take advantage of the circumstance and take action.
ME: “Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. I really want an ice cream cone.”
OPPORTUNITY: “Hey son, want a lick?”
ME: “No thanks Dad. I’m waiting for someone to come out of the blue and offer me a chocolate chunk, double scoop waffle cone with sprinkles.”
Don’t die with a dream still in you because of inaction (that’s fear’s younger passive brother). How could we have all these dreams and not have an answer to completing them?
When I personal train people I tell them to do things. If they listen and do it, the result is that they lose weight. I could explain everything but it’s not necessary. They can go get certified if that’s what they want but if they act on what I am giving them, results happen. But if they doubt me and the information I’m giving and then don’t act on it..guess what? No action, no reward.
ME: “Its dark in here. I wish it was brighter.”
OPPORTUNITY: “Flick the switch”
ME: “It might not work, I don’t want to bother. I don’t understand volts, resistance and current”.
OPPORTUNITY: “Flick the frick’n switch man!”
There’s Truth Behind The Fluff
Let’s talk about releasing or reprograming. If you have your path, your vision, and its not happening, then you have a resistance that is not resonating with your desire inside. You have to vibrate with the same level as the desire. Is that a little too hokey?
Check this out (this actually happened):
You desperately want to lose weight. You have tried every program, pill and exercise gadget out there. Nothing works. When nothing works, that’s usually a sign. Especially if it has worked for others.
What you are not bringing up is the painful memory of being raped as a child. Deep in your subconscious, you know that when you lose weight and get that sexy body you have always wanted; you are going to attract attention from the opposite sex.
I see an internal conflict brewing and two vibrational thoughts in opposition. Consequently, tension, anger, and frustration are born. The signs your body gives you that it is in DIS-ease. Go inside to fix the outside.
To put the law of attraction to work for you;
- Find out what you really want by starting with what you don’t.
- Release, forgive, dig around inside to see what might be at emotional odds with your goal.
- Let the way present itself.
- Be open and awake so you can see the signs.
- Act on them. In other words, work long and intensely on it.
We feel bad because we don’t resonate with something that is going on. We are out of tune, playing in the wrong key. In other words, what we want is not matching what we are getting from something. It means we are out of line with what we truly want.
Do you really think that your subconscious is going to make you super successful at something that makes you feel like crap on a daily basis? Of course not, why would it want you to have more of what you deep down don’t really enjoy?
So this brings us to the cliché line of “Do what you love and success will follow“. But at this point it kind of makes sense now. Because if you are having fun doing something and you want to make a million bucks then its not a far stretch that your subconscious will bring to your attention things that will help you achieve success.
The Law Of Attraction Works On Vibes
We all want to attract more of what we like, so how do we get out of our bad resonance rut? The first step is to be clear on what you want. If you are trying to be successful and following the mold of how to get it done but not enjoying the process, then it just wont work. That bad vibe will impede progress on a deep level.
You don’t need to figure out every step! As a matter of fact, you simply can’t. Most of us can’t even plan out a day. There are too many intangibles. Phone calls, red lights, cats barfing on your carpet. Modeling success is great. It at least gives you a direction. Sometimes, detours are the funniest parts of a trip. If you do model, you have to model someone that is doing things in a manner that click with you. Again, if it isn’t fun, simply run…
You get nudges and intuitive ideas. Which ones should you act on? ALL OF THEM. There are many paths to the same destination. Pick the one that fires you up the most. Go with your calling. Just because someone else doesn’t do it that way doesn’t mean it won’t work for you. Most big successes are something new. In order to be new, you need to think for yourself.
Hunches And Throwing Spaghetti Against The Wall
For example, my website was not meant to make money at all. This was where I was going to do the stuff that I love. Poems that no one else would care about. Life, fitness, philosophy and other things that make you really hot to the ladies. Writing in a style that would give my high school English teacher a case of the trots. Write, make tunes, share my ideas…it’s turned out to be much more than I ever thought.
Trying to FIGURE OUT how you are going to be successful is very difficult. Joe Vitale in the book Zero Limits says that all great ideas will come from your zero state. Same with Zen, Toltec, the list goes on and on. You have to follow your gut to the area where you have fun.
I don’t mean only the non-work kind of fun. Nothing will happen without your effort to do what is physically necessary. It’s more like the “I enjoy working out” fun that gets you results. You can be very active trying to hunt down your dreams but that doesn’t mean they are going to happen. You have to trust yourself and follow your hunches. FOLLOW THE SIGNS!
You really will just get pulled from step to step. Everything does happen for a reason. Are you listening? Are you watching for the directions? Or are you caught in the mental chatter about yesterdays run in with that jerk in the line up at Star Bucks? Maybe you’re still trying to follow a path already laid down that won’t work for your make up.
Why The Law Of Attraction Isn’t Working
So what’s holding you back from attracting your dreams? Is it a limiting belief of some sort? Maybe fear of failure or fear of success? The emotional freedom technique might help you. I’ve tried the Sedona technique and it’s a great read. They are all pieces of a puzzle that you put together until you start to make sense of the “Big Picture”. The Sedona method is more about asking yourself questions and looking inward to release the emotions that are holding you back.
And yes, you hold onto emotional crap. The crazy part is your don’t know about it. That sucks because you have to go digging. Every reaction you have to any situation is a result of a past experience that you are recycling to make for efficient handling of everyday life.
Listen to that C.D. skip baby. And if you let it keep skipping, you never get to appreciate the full song.
What about EFT? How about a sample? How does that work? EFT is much more direct and proactive on your own part. Does it work? Well studies say yes. I say who cares, give it a shot. If nothing else you get to poke yourself and have a good laugh. You can check that out on Bob Doyles site. You can get Bob’s opinion on “does the law of attraction actually work?” in the movie “The Secret.”
I just started EFT and all I got black eyes and a sore collar bone (just kidding.)
What if you don’t know that you have a limiting belief? How do you know if there is something there when, well, you don’t know its there?
Digging Deep On Your Hang Ups
Lets take wealth and the law of attraction. Everyone wants wealth. Is there something there keeping you from getting it? How do you talk to yourself? “I know I deserve massive wealth, (little voice: no you don’t) but I am not getting it (little voice: cause you come from a poor family)”…wrong. You have to shut that little keebler elf down. “You’re going down clown!”
If you are wondering how to work yourself through the law of attraction you can start with what you don’t want and flip it around. Once you know that, really make sure that you really get fired up before you go for it. You can’t attract something that you don’t strongly want. You have to REALLY want it so you take physical action. If you cant think of something that you desire THAT much, then relax and enjoy life. Congratulations, you have everything you will ever want.
You want to attract the end result, not something that you think will get you there. Like money. Maybe what you really want is freedom or love, and you think money will be your route to getting those things. That may be so, but it’s not the money you should be trying to attract but the freedom or love itself, because that’s what’s your real motivator.
You must be honest with what it is you TRULY want. Asking, “Can I make money from this?” has killed more great ideas than any other.
Can The Law Of Attraction Get You Anything You Want?
Have you ever seen Joe Versus the Volcano? I watched it the other night and it made me think. “Why do we have to get shaken out of our stupor with a near death event or a tragic event to decide to live our lives the way we want?”
Why do you want to go through life living it with less vitality, fun, ambition and adventure than you are capable of? I don’t know, but we all do it to some degree. We all have an area of our lives that we spend time doing or being a part of when we would rather be, do or have something else.
Then one day we get an inkling that we’re not happy and that maybe we would like to change something. So we set a goal and get fired up, try the change for a bit and get sucked back into a life of mediocrity. All the while beating ourselves up for failing. At the same time reinforcing our ideas that we never were meant to succeed. Must be the genetics. Can’t do it without the support of my spouse, boss, children, or family.
The real reason we never accomplish our goals and dreams is that we give up. If we didn’t give up, we would eventually find a means to achieving our dreams. Because one step after another, down the path, discovers new things along the way that make us wiser as we go.
Piece by piece, one step at a time on the journey, the clues to solving our life situations present themselves. But those that turn around at the first obstacle of CHOICE, never even get on the path of success.
Focus And Concentration Work – Maybe Your Plan Doesn’t
Once you DECIDE that you will achieve your goals, dreams, ambitions and aspirations to be, do, have more, it’s only a matter of finding out what you need to know to make it all work.
Of course, finding out exactly how to achieve something isn’t always easy, but none the less…
In one study I looked at of 700 people, only 14% said that they achieved most of the goals they had set out at the beginning of the year. Of that 14% only 1% said they accomplished everything they set out to do. And the other 86% said they accomplished some to none of what they set out to do. I say this only because I think it’s important to note that most of us don’t do what we set out to. The other thing to note is that there is 14% of the population that is doing something that most of us are not. And we need to learn it.
Here is another interesting note. 42% of us write down the same darn goals every year. We obviously know what we want, because we keep wanting it year after year.
So the problem is either a lack of focused action, a bad plan or an unrealistic goal/time frame.
The Truth Will Set You Free
I was talking with my personal training client Larry the other day. Larry is 74 and like all 74 year olds, has quite a bit of life experience and with a little prodding, is willing to share.
We were talking about the movie “The Secret” and the power of thought. We went back and forth on the law of attraction and at one point I said: “I believe that if something has been accomplished by someone on earth, then anyone can do it.” So started the debate.
He said, “Do you remember the other day when I asked if I did this exercise, would I look like you?” I knew where he was going with this and said, “Yes, I remember.”
He continued, “You said “no”, and I appreciated your honesty. You said that you didn’t choose your parents and they were too young to be mine!”
What I was trying to convey was that he was 74 and physically, it was past his time to look just like I did. Youth has its advantages and disadvantages.
He had his own story to add. “This reminds me of a story about my grandson,” he said. “He was only six at the time and we were talking about positive thinking and that you can be anything you want as long as you concentrate your thoughts and efforts on becoming it”.
He smiled and continued, “After about 30 minutes my grandson piped up and said, “But I can think about being a pig as much as I want but I still can’t be a pig”.
There are things that are physically possible with the right tools, opportunities and enough time while others, well those are called miracles.
Dream about what you want in the first person. Act on every opportunity. Have patience and focus until you arrive.