Dealing with your fears and expectations of success

Posted by Raymond Burton | .

If you look at the things you want out of life and look really hard at the things you have not accomplished, you’ll see fear.

You should take this journey daily. A combination of facing your fears and being brutally honest with yourself about what you are feeling and the programs you are running through your mind.

You have to realize that if you want something and yet still don’t have it, there is a reason. The most common thing is fear. This fear will take many forms but when you boil it down it comes to the avoidance of pain or at the highest level, an emotional or physical death.

If you need to be out of a relationship and yet are still in it, you are afraid. You could be afraid of the emotional death that will occur when no one is around to give you attention no matter how bad that attention may be. It could be that you are afraid you will not be able to provide for yourself and that could mean physical discomfort, pain or even death in the deep places of your mind.

If you need more money but still don’t have it, then you are afraid. Afraid to go through the discomfort of not having everything you want, the moment you want it. The numbing of pain by medicating with purchases. This is why you buy stuff all the time and go beyond your budget. Maybe you are scared to go outside your personal boundaries to take the actions that will allow you to pick the dollars off the money tree.

Look at all of those goals of yours. Look deep down and be honest with yourself. Do you have what it takes to go forward with the actions you need to take in order to acquire the prize? If you don’t why? What are you scared of?

Now for a word about realistic expectations. Often when people are instructed to set goals they may be asked if their expectations are realistic. I think you should have unrealistic expectations and celebrate every step of success on the way. After all, how many things have you chased in your life only to accomplish them and ask yourself, “Now what?”

The goal is secondary anyway. If you want $10,000, make your goal $1,000,000. It makes no difference. You are going to celebrate and enjoy every step along the way. You are going to concentrate on what the process towards the goal does for you. Who it makes you become. The character traits that are created and that will cross over into every area of your life. More importantly, the personal fears and boundaries you conquer and cross at every step.

By recognizing your fears and shooting for the stars you will become a more incredible person every day and in every way. All the while marching towards that destination that is your goal. Remember that the goal is the location but there is always plenty of great conversations and things to learn along the trip.