I heard the most interesting thing today. That fear is a nightmare and most of us are not succeeding the ways we want in life or achieving the things we want because of this fear. Now a mare of course is a horse. A female horse to be specific but that has nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with this cool analogy.
You can catch, tame and then ride a mare and this is what you need to do with your nightmare called fear. One you have that fear broken in you can use it to take you places that you have never been before. Places where usually your greatest successes will live.
The more I look into my own experiences the more I realize that the whole fear of success and fear of failure ideas you always hear are that way because they are so true. Half the time you don’t want to start something because you will look dumb to everyone when you fail miserably. The other half of the time, you are scared you might succeed and then get caught working your butt off every day in this new run away success you have.
So it is back to the basics again. What is fear regardless if it has to do with success or failure? Fear is the way you tell yourself you may experience something uncomfortable or or the extreme end, possible death. How do you deal with fear? You either make friends with it, or overwhelm it with another emotion that is stronger.
What I mean is that you either reframe fear so that instead of going through dread feelings with it, you recognize it as a sign of going somewhere new and associate it with growth. Make it more of a fun game type of deal. That of course is not the point on answer but it is an option to use. The other way is to have such an overwhelming positive desire for something that fear takes a weaker second place. Kind of like when you get up the nerve to ask someone to dance with you at a party. You are scared but the benefits of getting a yes overwhelm you on an emotional level and get you to move past your fear.
These are just methods that I find useful from time to time and not overall answers to life. You have to watch that stuff. Ideas will work in one spot and then need to be revised in another application. Life is a pretty dynamic game and I think anyone that professes to have all the answers, probably has none at all.
